Back in 1993, there was a movie released called Alive. It’s based on the true story of a Uruguayan rugby team who get stranded in the Andes Mountains after their plane goes down. In order to survive, the team is forced to do some intense things. At one point, one of the main characters, Nando, played by Ethan Hawke, announces to everyone that he’s been listening to the radio and has good news: The rescue party that’s been looking for them has just been cancelled and no one will be coming. This of course upsets all of the other survivors, and one of them asks, “Why the hell is that good news?” Nando responds, saying, “Now we know it ‘s up to us to get out of here.” Listening to that line hit me like a ton of bricks. Since then, anytime I’ve came to a point in my life that’s had some darkness or uncertainty, I would repeat to myself, “No one’s coming to save me. It’s up to me, and that’s good news!”
Some may look at a statement like this and think it’s coming from someone that’s not a team player or doesn’t have strong ties to their family or maybe doesn’t have a lot of faith. That couldn’t be further from the truth. I love being a part of a team, I love my family, and I have a great relationship with them and my close friends. I also happen to be a man of faith. The line “no one is coming to save me” means I won’t blame anyone for my failures or rely on anyone else for my success. That doesn’t mean I won’t ask for help numerous times a day or I won’t pray for a miracle from time to time, but ultimately, I know that getting myself to where I need to be is up to me and this gives me great comfort.
In the children’s book, “The Paper Bag Princess” by Robert Munsch, the girl in the story ends up not only becoming her own hero but saves the day and the prince instead of expecting the prince to save her. That’s what we need to be like. We need to be our own hero because no one else is coming.
It’s okay to be a hero to others, and it’s okay to have a hero, but don’t sit around waiting to be saved. You end up much happier when you approach life with this understanding because not only will you improve your chances of success if you take control of your own life, but you also won’t be burdened with the feeling of blame towards others. Often when we wait for a hero and are disappointed, we inevitably start to blame others for our failures or lack of happiness. Anytime I’ve ever come across someone who blames others for their failure, I notice that their blame eventually turns into an incredible anger and then hate, which does nothing for them. Instead of wasting that energy on those negative feelings, put it towards achieving the success you want.